[Opinion] What if Men menstruate, get pregnant? A voice for Women


By Wale Odunsi

Each time I decide to write on subjects that are miles away from
politics, I feel this internal joy; the type I am sure my father felt
the moment I
emerged from my mother’s womb.

The burden of regular commentary on national issues is copulated with
headache – sometime acute – and my senior colleagues can attest to
this.
Writers on national issues always want to hit the nail on the head, so
hard that the topic itself left crying out for help, while the readers
armed
with their personal views take on each other.

Over the years, I have seen films and read stories about how the
softer sex are raped, beaten, relegated to the background and even
killed for no just reason except being feminine. That apparently is
their only sin, same way Amaechi’s wrongdoing is his victory at the
Nigeria Governors Forum. There
again; politics will never leave you even if you decide to.

Womanhood can be defined as the period in a female’s life after she
has passed through childhood and adolescence. However, the word has
different
meaning to different people. In some cultures, once a girl clocks 18,
she is automatically a woman, while some regard you as a woman with
the
understanding that you are married. To others, the ability to make
money and take care of family members qualifies that person to bear
the title.
Yet to another segment of the society, a girl is ranked a woman the
moment she starts having sexual intercourse.

In spite of the several delineations, there is no gainsaying that this
set of humans makes our world. They are readily available to share the
pain of
others, whether relatives/friends or not. An average woman even in
here toughness is kind hearted, strong and never-relenting in her day
to day
activity. Here in Africa, the percentage of the Renaissance woman –
the type well educated, sophisticated and knowledgeable in many fields
– may
fall short of other continents, however, she can do more even with the
very little at her disposal.

As tender as they are, it is horrendous that there exist “Monsters”
(emphasis is mine as they are not fit to be called men) in both high
and
low places, who engage in routine battery of their relatives,
colleagues, girlfriends, wives and even strangers! Although some later
regret the act,
to many others, “It’s not a big deal”. I am no preacher but I think
those that unrepentantly indulge in such despicable conduct are doomed
for life.

For instance, why would someone rape an underage girl, an elderly
woman or any age bracket of female for that matter? Some blame it on
civilization
and all manner of excuses but scratch that; our ancestors’ sexuality
was way higher due to their healthy lifestyles, but they controlled
themselves,
except of course the very few bad eggs. Placing then and now in
context, the spate of physical and sexual assaults stand worlds apart.

Fews days ago, precisely June 18 2013, two condemned men in Kuwait –
one of them Hajjaj Saadi – were executed for crimes said to have shook
the nation
known for moral decency. Authorities say the 33 year-old man abducted
and raped young children (mostly girls under the age of 10). Also
known as
‘Hawalli Beast’ (the name of the district where he perpetrated the
crimes), Saadi would lure the kids onto rooftops in the area then
forcefully rape
them.

To send a warning message to those contemplating or carrying out such
act, the bastard and the other guy were both hanged on a gallows set
up in a car
park outside the country’s main prison. Here, Governors shy away from
signing the death warrants of men found guilty of committing heinous
crimes
against women, but rush to sign cheques for their concubines as well
as rogues they use as front to siphon public funds.

To the Men folk, it is high time we desist from raising our hands on
these beautiful creations. If only we reflect soberly about the pains
our
mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, neighbours et al., go through
during menstruation or childbirth and how weak they become after
losing pints of
blood, perhaps we would appreciate them more than we do at present.

*”The history of every country is carved by the hand of man, while the
hope and love of humanity is born of a woman’s soul” – Joe Fazio*

wodunsi@yahoo.com
@WaleOdunsi

************
The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not
necessarily reflect the editorial policy of The Paradigm.

Send your articles for publication to editor@paradigmshiftng.com. You
can also send your eye witness reports, photos and videos to
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By Wale Odunsi

Each time I decide to write on subjects that are miles away from
politics, I feel this internal joy; the type I am sure my father felt
the moment I
emerged from my mother’s womb.

The burden of regular commentary on national issues is copulated with
headache – sometime acute – and my senior colleagues can attest to
this.
Writers on national issues always want to hit the nail on the head, so
hard that the topic itself left crying out for help, while the readers
armed
with their personal views take on each other.

Over the years, I have seen films and read stories about how the
softer sex are raped, beaten, relegated to the background and even
killed for no just reason except being feminine. That apparently is
their only sin, same way Amaechi’s wrongdoing is his victory at the
Nigeria Governors Forum. There
again; politics will never leave you even if you decide to.

Womanhood can be defined as the period in a female’s life after she
has passed through childhood and adolescence. However, the word has
different
meaning to different people. In some cultures, once a girl clocks 18,
she is automatically a woman, while some regard you as a woman with
the
understanding that you are married. To others, the ability to make
money and take care of family members qualifies that person to bear
the title.
Yet to another segment of the society, a girl is ranked a woman the
moment she starts having sexual intercourse.

In spite of the several delineations, there is no gainsaying that this
set of humans makes our world. They are readily available to share the
pain of
others, whether relatives/friends or not. An average woman even in
here toughness is kind hearted, strong and never-relenting in her day
to day
activity. Here in Africa, the percentage of the Renaissance woman –
the type well educated, sophisticated and knowledgeable in many fields
– may
fall short of other continents, however, she can do more even with the
very little at her disposal.

As tender as they are, it is horrendous that there exist “Monsters”
(emphasis is mine as they are not fit to be called men) in both high
and
low places, who engage in routine battery of their relatives,
colleagues, girlfriends, wives and even strangers! Although some later
regret the act,
to many others, “It’s not a big deal”. I am no preacher but I think
those that unrepentantly indulge in such despicable conduct are doomed
for life.

For instance, why would someone rape an underage girl, an elderly
woman or any age bracket of female for that matter? Some blame it on
civilization
and all manner of excuses but scratch that; our ancestors’ sexuality
was way higher due to their healthy lifestyles, but they controlled
themselves,
except of course the very few bad eggs. Placing then and now in
context, the spate of physical and sexual assaults stand worlds apart.

Fews days ago, precisely June 18 2013, two condemned men in Kuwait –
one of them Hajjaj Saadi – were executed for crimes said to have shook
the nation
known for moral decency. Authorities say the 33 year-old man abducted
and raped young children (mostly girls under the age of 10). Also
known as
‘Hawalli Beast’ (the name of the district where he perpetrated the
crimes), Saadi would lure the kids onto rooftops in the area then
forcefully rape
them.

To send a warning message to those contemplating or carrying out such
act, the bastard and the other guy were both hanged on a gallows set
up in a car
park outside the country’s main prison. Here, Governors shy away from
signing the death warrants of men found guilty of committing heinous
crimes
against women, but rush to sign cheques for their concubines as well
as rogues they use as front to siphon public funds.

To the Men folk, it is high time we desist from raising our hands on
these beautiful creations. If only we reflect soberly about the pains
our
mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, neighbours et al., go through
during menstruation or childbirth and how weak they become after
losing pints of
blood, perhaps we would appreciate them more than we do at present.

*”The history of every country is carved by the hand of man, while the
hope and love of humanity is born of a woman’s soul” – Joe Fazio*

wodunsi@yahoo.com
@WaleOdunsi

************
The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not
necessarily reflect the editorial policy of The Paradigm.

Send your articles for publication to editor@paradigmshiftng.com. You
can also send your eye witness reports, photos and videos to
iwitness@paradigmshiftng.com

Click here to subscribe to The Paradigm Newsletter

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